Dilemma New post Reality


Hello my beautiful readers and to my fellow bloggers, welcome again to my blog. How was your weekend on your end, trust it was good. Well if you asking about mine, it was cool, am grateful to God.

Alright I know I have not come out to tell you all about the days I would be posting, I know, currently I am still favouring it out, ok, to be honest I was thinking daily, what? Thats not realistic for me, then I thought about three times a week which I was doing immediately I started this blog, but if you noticed, I didn’t post yesterday, so am like what will I do now?

What do you all think about this delimma of mine, what do you suggest I do, or what advice do you have for me. The truth is whatever I post has to be raw right? But I have other commitments, gosh, 😭😭😭 right now I don’t know what I am saying, I do hope you understood a bit, or what do you all think.

I would appreciate your contribution, your thoughts, your feedback or suggestions

Let’s see your comments down below…..

With Love,


Mother's Love Mothers New post Reality


Hello my dear readers, welcome to “RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL” so glad to have you all stop by.

Mothers are great, are the best, are fearless, are brave, are beautiful, are mothers who go the extra mile for their kids and families. I love my mother, what about you, let me know in the comments section


Mothers love is all a child needs to triumph over any obstacles or challenges he / she may encounter, gosh they are the best humans ever.

Mothers prefer to feed their kids and not eat themselves than eat and let their kids starve. I love mothers, they are super humans

They carry the kids for 9 months, some 10 months, give birth and nurture the kids no mater what challenges they pass through

To me, mothers day should be every day, show your mom all the love everyday. They deserve more than that, I mean they are always ready to go all out for their kids and their husbands.


If you have not told your mom you love her, then use this opportunity to tell her now.

Would love to hear you all talk about your moms, what they have done for you, be free to talk about her in the comments section

Thank you so much for reading, this means a lot to me. Grateful as always ❀️

With Love,


Abuses Children Children Talks Conversations Insults Insults to children New post Reality


Hi my fellow bloggers and readers, so I have decided to always greet you all before I start blogging and this makes me extremely glad to start this. What do you all think about this style, let me know in the comments section.

Insulting children is like a norm because the mindset is “THIS WILL MAKE THEM STRONG” how strong please. I can’t just imagine this is a norm, WHAT??

Firstly, children are gifts to all parents so why hurl insults at them or to them. Such words are so damaging that it affects the child or children. Gosh, how low can some people get and what is more shocking is that it’s majorly from ADULTS, PARENTS, GULDANCE, etc.

sad all the time

Children that are in this environment end up getting so depressed, have low self esteem, bad character, always sad, bitter, feeling worthless most of the time

I usually ask myself this question and this is addressed to you my readers too, HOW DOES HURLING INSULTS ON CHILDREN HELP IN THEIR DEVELOPMENT, THEIR GROWTH, THEIR LIVES. The answer to this question to me could be as a result of many things like:

1. Illiteracy

2. Where they came from, i.e. their environment

3. Wickedness

4. Unhappiness

5.The fact it’s happened to them, thereby giving this to others. Meaning you can’t give what you don’t have but give what you have.

This is a situation plaquing our communities on a daily and it’s not acceptable.

Now, it’s your turn my dear readers, put yours in the comments section. Let’s run minds together.

Also, I wanted to ask you my dear readers, have you seen any child on your area going through this or a friend or something relating to this, let’s talk about it in the comments section.

My dear readers β™₯️ know that this is an environment which allows us to be free to speak out minds, no judgement whatsoever, freedom all the way

I will round up with this post, by saying that we all need each other to change all the disfunctionality in our communities so don’t be left out.

Thank you so much for reading this, it means a lot

With Love,


Conversations Environmental harzard Fathers New post Noise Pollution


Wait a minute, who thinks this title is speaking their minds right now, raise your hands so that we all could see, I will start first πŸ™‹, now show yours but in the comments section.

Hello my dear readers, this is “RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL” l love you all so much, for the love and support, I am grateful.

Now let’s get to this. I can understand playing music in your house 🏠 is so much your right and you have all the reason to do so but it’s becomes a problem when you playing the music to the disturbance of others

Gosh, anytime I see this act, I get so bothered about this. This is what they call “NOISE POLLUTION” orif you all have another name for this, put it in the comments section

How can on a MONDAY, TUESDAY, WEDNESDAY, THURSDAY, FRIDAY, SATURDAY AND SUNDAY, I mean all days in the week, the community hears this everyday, how do you think they would feel, let’s pretend to go through this every day. I know it would be hell.

This is a narrative here in my area and the most surprising thing is that people are not showing any sign of been bothered. If you were to ask them, how they feel about this, their reply would be *WE ARE USE TO THIS” use to this? Hmmmmn

The truth of the matter is, assuming laws were effectively put in place, these actions would never take place but far from that, NO LAW WHATSOEVER.

1. I would love to hear your thoughts on this, 1.has this ever happened in your community,

2. your area,

3. your country, let me know in the comments section

Thank you so much for reading this piece from me, this means a lot.

See you in my next,

With Love,


Children Conversations Environmental harzard Fathers Mothers New post Reality Sanitary


Hi my dear readers, welcome to “RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL“. My name is MaMa, so glad to have you all here.

I have tried to avoid this particular situation but I can’t, since this blog was created to talk about raw activities happening in my nation that have been existing and still exist, I told myself to be bold and RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL is here to stay.

From the title my friends, I know you are wondering what this is all about, so I need you all to sit down or stand whatever you prefer to digest all this now, if YES can I get a a YAY or if NO which I doubt, anyways away from that, just joking aroundπŸ˜„πŸ˜„

This mindset is the worse ever. I don’t understand how a grown man and woman would tell their children to poop in a small container ( a small bucket) and throw it into the gutters. I have seen this happen before and I was dumb for like 10 minutes straight. I didn’t know how to react, no words at all.

I would have loved to show you pictures but it would be disturbing to the eyes and might affect people's health, so we avoid that, shall we, THANK YOU

This is like a norm in rural areas in my country and the rate at which it is still occuring is so troubling. But hold on a minute, if you were to ask this people why they participate in such act, they would say, in quote “WETIN BE YOUR BUSINESS” meaning “how does it concern you”. Or “NA YOUR DUMMOT I DO AM” meaning “is it in front of your house I did it?”.

For goodness sake, gutters are not septic tanks, are not soakawayπŸ™†

This act affects the lives of people living in that area because we all know it’s waste products, the smell, the toxicity its causes, people health are in jeopardy, the life span is affected, hmmm, this indeed not good at all.

I will stop here for now,πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡

What do you all think about this, can you relate to this cinario or something similar, please let me know in the comments section below. Also what are your thoughts about this, let’s discuss in the comments together.

Thank you for reading this article this far

With Love,πŸ’‹πŸ’‹


Children Children Talks Conversations Fathers Mothers New post Pregnancy Reality


I have being try to sweet coat this very existing situation in my country but I can’t do that, because if I do you all will not be happy with me.

Now before I get on with discussing about this title with you, permit me to thank all my new friends who have been leaving uplifting Comments, likes, I am grateful.


I never would have thought I would be accepted on this platform especially on the things that many are afraid to talk about, that I am discussing here. THANK YOU FAM

Its about time to get on to why you all are here. The amount of children that are not with their real father’s is quite disturbing and I must say that, this alone causes a lot of pain on the children and their fathers eventually when they find out.


I am not judging any woman who go to such lengths to get a child to save their marriage, but is it really worth it, why do this knowing fully well many hearts will be broken if the parties find out, most times none do and they live happily thereafter.

There are three cenarios as to the occurrence of this in some families in Nigeria, here they are:

  1. The fact that their husbands are impotent, here the husbands know about their condition but say nothing to their spouse. This is what I mean, I will explain this further. They plan with their friends to impregnate their wives without their wives knowing. Hmmmmn, very sad, very evil. All for having a child to tell the world you are a parent.
  2. Another fact is, their husbands are not always around to perform their marital duties so they seek sexual refuge from other available men.
  3. Both parties agree to get a child knowing so well that there is a problem with both or either of them.

I know at this moment, this is a lot but it is what it is. These are indeed raw situations that happen in many homes but every one of them keep all that to themselves and eventually the TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT.

Can I ask you all to crush on this beautiful pictures of pregnant women for a moment πŸ’‹πŸ’‹




How did you all feel after seeing this beautiful pictures of pregnant women, now let’s continue with the conversation.

There are still more cinarios but I will stop at this three mentioned above.

With all this realities mentioned, is it worth saving ones marriage over these actions? How is these helpful, why can’t you both in the marriage be honest enough to communicate, is it that difficult to do so?

You both are now one, so you can discuss anything with each other and protect solutions together.

I know having a child is very important but I think whatever you do in getting one, let it be for the right reasons and not necessarily to save your marriage, am just saying. Nobody should get hurt along the line. Children like I said in my last two posts are God’s gift to mankind, having them in a marriage complete the marriage.

Let’s talk about this in the comments section, what are your thoughts on these. Have you observed this in your area or in your country? Do you know of any solution / solutions to these, to f you do let us know. This is RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL

Thank you friends for stopping by and being part of this conversation, see you in my next post.


I own no rights to the pictures and GIFs used in this post.

With Love,


Award Award nominee Conversations New post Reality Third post

The Original Outstanding Blogger Award! Am beyond words

I am so happy to have seen this awesome news of what? I know you all are aware why I am happy because it’s showing on the title. Well I am very very happy. I have been nominated by delectable, a one of a kind blogger who had just being so supportive, she is Zamadlomo Mkhabela for THE ORIGINAL OUTSTANDING BLOGGER AWARD. This is so emotional for me because I just started my blog some days ago and the fact that she believed in me to nominate me for this, I am so grateful to her and my new friends that have been showing love to my work. I want to scream, can I? Please let me, πŸ™‰πŸ™‰

Rules are below:

  1. Provide the link to the creator’s original award post. (very important: see why in step 5)
  2. Answer the questions provided.
  3. Create 7 unique questions.
  4. Nominate 10 bloggers. Ensure that they are aware of their nomination. Neither the awards’s creator, nor the blogger that nominated you, can be nominated.
  5. At the end of 2020, every blog that ping-backs the creator’s orignal post will be entered to win the 2020 Outstanding Blogger Award!

This award was created by Colton Beckwith.

The questions from Zamadlomo Mkhabela and my answers are below

  1. What’s one thing you wish you did differently?

That’s a very good question, because I usually ask myself before but I run away from it because I felt I had nothing but the truth is, I know now and its I wished I had opened up more, be fearless with all of the things I was passionate about and focused on it with all of my soul.

2. Your favourite movie genre?

I have no favourite movie genre, it depends on my mood, I can like action today, romance tomorrow, mainly my mood determines.

3. Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging because I wanted to share my passion of changing the narrative with having raw and unfiltered conversations of happenings in my nation without allowing fear within me anymore. In the past, I had tried blogging but I never believed in myself, fear and doubt bothered me then. Now, I made up my mind to take charge and defeat fear.

4. Indoors or outdoors?

Indoors most of the time and outdoors some time or both, still favouring that out and I am loving it.

5. What do you do for fun?

Call friends, family, go out with friends, eat, go to the cinemas

6.Gym or bed?

Prefer gym but the bed is important too. Have to say both

7. What’s special about you?

A lot is special about me, I am child of God but you all will have to find that out even more.

Now, here is my questions πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡

  1. What do you do asides blogging
  2. What do you do to get inspired while blogging
  3. How has your blog impacted your reader’s lives
  4. Do you allow your environment influence your writing
  5. Where do you dream of traveling to aftertafter convid-19 pandemic
  6. Which do you prefer juice or water
  7. Who exactly are you, I want to know now you

I nominate the following:



Your Mind Hub


Vincent Ehindero

Science with Ivan


Ramblings of Raven

HOPE 2018

RaduH’s Blog

I came across your works not quite long and I must say am loving you all already. Whether you are a new blogger or an existing Blogger, I am glad to be nominating you all. Continue writing!!

Children Children Talks Conversations Giving birth indiscriminately New post


Children are God’s gift to mankind. They are the light of our world, they are the air we breathe literally so let’s not make them suffer unnecessarily.

This topic is what many of us are afraid to talk about here in Nigeria, that has to change, let’s be ourselves and speak out truth



Mother and son


look at their smiles

even in his suffering, he wants to smile

Children are suffering a lot in Nigeria, stop making suffer, it’s not their fault they were brought into a family that’s not financially responsible. Don’t get me wrong, am only saying this happens more on the rural areas but we can change that narrative TODAY

Whenever I go out, I get so sad with how kids are miserable, sad, angry, bitter, the list is endless. I have decided to write all this, because it’s never easy to change a narrative that has been on existence for many years. Our parents stop with the indiscriminate giving birth of kids in Nogeria. Let’s stand up and make all kids always happy because from the pictures above you would see they bring joy to our lives

We can’t wait for the governor, the government, we have each other, so we have to work together to goes solution to this plaque. Whoever is reading this post now, well I am glad you are here, let’s work together. We have to create awareness that are practical and realistic so that our parents can understand that they should give birth to kids they can care for comfortably and not to prove a point to other people of how many boys they have and having lesser girls

This leads me to this, stop saying in quote “IF GOD DOESN’T GIVE ME MONEY, HE WOULD GIVE ME CHILDREN” this is from the pit of hell, am sorry to bring up this, but this is “RAWCONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL”

This will be changed very soon, so I need you all to share this, we can change this. I will stop writing now, but be reassured I would be back on another daring topic that many are afraid to bring to the public

Thanks for stopping by, before leaving I would want to know if you go through this in your area or country, be free and raw



Conversations New post Welcome page


I have wanted to have my mind seen as it is because I get overwhelmed with all of the ideas it has but wait… Literally.

I am here to welcome you all to literally my mind.

I will now introduce what “RAW CONVERSATIONS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL entails, so relax and read through for that..πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

This is an idea I have always wanted to share with the world but I allowed fear to hold me back because I told myself that what would people say, how will people see me after reading this blog, this site. It took great courage now, I mean now to bring this to the world without allowing fear weigh me down

A lot of conversations have been brought up by many, leading to the negative and positive, I mean more negatives but they spoke their thoughts

Now, I will share what this #rawconversationswithanigeriangirl with you since you all are interested to know, this I think is the case right now.

Raw conversations with a nigerian girl is here to speak what people in Nigeria and the world are afraid to say and I am bringing it in its raw form without adding any filter

Are you all ready for this evolution of bringing the unfiltered, the raw, the boldness then keep up with me to find out more

I am the nigerian girl bringing the raw conversations #conversation #rawconversation #theunfiltered #zerotohero